Comments on: Ask the Mominatrix http://www.manicmommies.com/index.php/2010/02/09/ask-the-mominatrix/ Weekly podcast for moms trying to do it all... and then some! Sat, 04 Feb 2012 03:20:42 +0000 hourly 1 By: Kristin http://www.manicmommies.com/index.php/2010/02/09/ask-the-mominatrix/comment-page-1/#comment-8317 Kristin Wed, 10 Feb 2010 12:36:46 +0000 http://www.manicmommies.com/?p=3698#comment-8317 I'm with Yolanda....medication can suck the libido. Any thoughts? I’m with Yolanda….medication can suck the libido. Any thoughts?

]]> By: Lisa http://www.manicmommies.com/index.php/2010/02/09/ask-the-mominatrix/comment-page-1/#comment-8310 Lisa Wed, 10 Feb 2010 03:11:25 +0000 http://www.manicmommies.com/?p=3698#comment-8310 I have a similar situation that Lori does. I go to bed somewhere between 10-11:30pm. The hubby anywhere between 2-3:30am. That last thing I want to do when I am overworked, exhausted and overstressed is be woken up in the smackdab middle of the night to only have to get up in a couple of hours. Suggestions? I have a similar situation that Lori does. I go to bed somewhere between 10-11:30pm. The hubby anywhere between 2-3:30am. That last thing I want to do when I am overworked, exhausted and overstressed is be woken up in the smackdab middle of the night to only have to get up in a couple of hours. Suggestions?

]]> By: TSG http://www.manicmommies.com/index.php/2010/02/09/ask-the-mominatrix/comment-page-1/#comment-8309 TSG Wed, 10 Feb 2010 03:01:03 +0000 http://www.manicmommies.com/?p=3698#comment-8309 How do you get in the mood? I have zero libido and it just isn't fun or good anymore. It definitely does not feel the same since having a baby. How do you get in the mood? I have zero libido and it just isn’t fun or good anymore. It definitely does not feel the same since having a baby.

]]> By: Carissa http://www.manicmommies.com/index.php/2010/02/09/ask-the-mominatrix/comment-page-1/#comment-8307 Carissa Tue, 09 Feb 2010 22:58:01 +0000 http://www.manicmommies.com/?p=3698#comment-8307 ooh... this is gonna be a good show. I wish you had a video podcast, so we could see you blushing as you ask these questions!! ;) And here's another... My husband and I do not have matching libidos... He would love it twice a day, and once or twice a week is enough for me. As someone said in a discussion on the Big Tent, once I get into it, I really do enjoy it, but it is hard to clear my mind, clear my schedule and "just do it"! How do we even things out to make both of us happy? ooh… this is gonna be a good show. I wish you had a video podcast, so we could see you blushing as you ask these questions!! ;)

And here’s another…
My husband and I do not have matching libidos… He would love it twice a day, and once or twice a week is enough for me. As someone said in a discussion on the Big Tent, once I get into it, I really do enjoy it, but it is hard to clear my mind, clear my schedule and “just do it”!
How do we even things out to make both of us happy?

]]> By: Lori http://www.manicmommies.com/index.php/2010/02/09/ask-the-mominatrix/comment-page-1/#comment-8305 Lori Tue, 09 Feb 2010 22:46:53 +0000 http://www.manicmommies.com/?p=3698#comment-8305 How do I convince DH that midnight - 4:00 AM is NOT the most ideal time. I call him "Captain Midnight" because that is the ONLY TIME intimacy ever happens for us - when he wakes me up from a dead sleep. I don't want to always say no to Cap'n M (I often do say no) because then our sexlife would cease to exist. Any time I try to intitiate at more approriate (and less exhausting) times, he seems more interested in the sports highlights, his book, an app on his iPhone, blah-de-blah! How do I convince DH that midnight – 4:00 AM is NOT the most ideal time.
I call him “Captain Midnight” because that is the ONLY TIME intimacy ever happens for us – when he wakes me up from a dead sleep.
I don’t want to always say no to Cap’n M (I often do say no) because then our sexlife would cease to exist.
Any time I try to intitiate at more approriate (and less exhausting) times, he seems more interested in the sports highlights, his book, an app on his iPhone, blah-de-blah!

]]> By: Paula http://www.manicmommies.com/index.php/2010/02/09/ask-the-mominatrix/comment-page-1/#comment-8304 Paula Tue, 09 Feb 2010 22:45:29 +0000 http://www.manicmommies.com/?p=3698#comment-8304 How about sex for single moms. I've been widowed for not quite two years. Not really ready to jump back in yet, but have no idea about how to handle that sort of thing when I am. Especially nervous about starting out again after not doing it for so long. How about sex for single moms. I’ve been widowed for not quite two years. Not really ready to jump back in yet, but have no idea about how to handle that sort of thing when I am. Especially nervous about starting out again after not doing it for so long.

]]> By: Yolanda http://www.manicmommies.com/index.php/2010/02/09/ask-the-mominatrix/comment-page-1/#comment-8302 Yolanda Tue, 09 Feb 2010 21:56:38 +0000 http://www.manicmommies.com/?p=3698#comment-8302 Sometimes the side effects of certain medications is that the libido decreases. How does one get beyond that and find the desire to be intimate again? Sometimes the side effects of certain medications is that the libido decreases. How does one get beyond that and find the desire to be intimate again?

]]> By: Lainie http://www.manicmommies.com/index.php/2010/02/09/ask-the-mominatrix/comment-page-1/#comment-8301 Lainie Tue, 09 Feb 2010 21:26:26 +0000 http://www.manicmommies.com/?p=3698#comment-8301 How can I get my brain to SLOW DOWN? When my husband wants to get things going, I'm busy thinking about the laundry, the lunches I didn't pack, and all of the loose ends I forgot. That alone is a deal-breaker! But once we get into it, I can mostly forget that stuff. But how do I get over the initial resistance? How can I get my brain to SLOW DOWN? When my husband wants to get things going, I’m busy thinking about the laundry, the lunches I didn’t pack, and all of the loose ends I forgot. That alone is a deal-breaker! But once we get into it, I can mostly forget that stuff. But how do I get over the initial resistance?

]]> By: Catherine http://www.manicmommies.com/index.php/2010/02/09/ask-the-mominatrix/comment-page-1/#comment-8300 Catherine Tue, 09 Feb 2010 20:47:54 +0000 http://www.manicmommies.com/?p=3698#comment-8300 Prior to having kids, we never needed any toys or outside stimulation. Now, between work and the kids, we are both always exhausted. When we have the energy to get into it, it's pretty great. More often than not it isn't good. Would toys help? What should we look into? Prior to having kids, we never needed any toys or outside stimulation. Now, between work and the kids, we are both always exhausted. When we have the energy to get into it, it’s pretty great. More often than not it isn’t good. Would toys help? What should we look into?

]]> By: Maryanne http://www.manicmommies.com/index.php/2010/02/09/ask-the-mominatrix/comment-page-1/#comment-8299 Maryanne Tue, 09 Feb 2010 20:47:49 +0000 http://www.manicmommies.com/?p=3698#comment-8299 I'm currently the mother of a 4 and a half year old and I'm thinking about trying to conceive in the near future. My husband is into it and I'm sort of into it only because I'm afraid that our sex life is going to go completely down the tubes. I love sex. I need sex. It de-stresses me but I'm afraid if we have a #2, there won't be enough TIME for satisfying sex. Is there any advice or encouragement that can squash my "fear"? I’m currently the mother of a 4 and a half year old and I’m thinking about trying to conceive in the near future. My husband is into it and I’m sort of into it only because I’m afraid that our sex life is going to go completely down the tubes. I love sex. I need sex. It de-stresses me but I’m afraid if we have a #2, there won’t be enough TIME for satisfying sex. Is there any advice or encouragement that can squash my “fear”?

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